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Laughter truly is the best medicine for
anyone; it eases stress and may help you to live longer. But laughter can also
help your relationship in many ways and we'll take a look at those ways in this
article. Keep in mind this is non-ridiculing laughter done by the both of you,
not one person making cruel fun of the other.
First off, laughing together keeps you on the same side. You are bonded
together; you are a team when you are laughing together at the same things. You
want to be on the same side as it makes you a cohesive unit in tackling the
not-so-funny stuff.
Laughing together means you have found some common ground. Sometimes you feel
like you don't have much in common with your significant other... until you both
start laughing at something. You apparently have the same sense of humor and
suddenly you don't seem miles apart.
When you laugh at something your partner says, you are making him feel really
good. By laughing, you're telling him that you find him funny or witty. This
makes him feel good about himself and also good about you too!
Laughing diffuses any potential bombs and keeps you from traveling down the path
of a hurtful argument. When you both laugh, it becomes the perfect chance to
change the subject. The atmosphere lightens and you're more likely to try to
find ways to continue the wonderful laughter than to argue.
Laughter releases any stress you have, not just relationship stress. It makes
life's hurts seem smaller and less significant. After all, you can't laugh and
worry at the same time, can you?
If you can turn any big life problems into something humorous, you will stop
being so afraid of the big problem and can start working on solutions. When my
husband and I look at what seems an insurmountable mountain of a problem, one of
us invariably says, "Hmm... needs more cowbell" (reference to an old Saturday
Night Live skit we find hilarious.) This gets us to laughing and puts us in the
right frame of mind for tackling the issue.
Laughing together goes hand in hand with playing together and we know that
playing together makes for a strong bond. If the laughing and playing seem to
have disappeared in your relationship, take some time now to add them back in.
Rent a funny movie or go to a comedy show to get you funny bones recharged. |
